3 Powerful Techniques to Cultivate a Peaceful Mind

1. Ignore the Uncontrollable

If you focus too much on things you can’t control, you’ll feel helpless, anxious, and stressed.

So, get into the habit of separating what is outside and inside of your control, and then act accordingly:

  • If it’s outside control — let it go. Tell yourself, “I don’t care,” until you’ve developed a healthy indifference to the situation.
  • If it’s inside your control — take action! Spend the time, energy, and focus necessary to create the change you want.

Strive to focus as much as you can on what’s within your control and as little as possible on what’s not.

It will make you much more effective, calm, and happy.

2. Choose Helpful Interpretations

If you feel annoyed about something, it’s not the thing itself that disturbs you.

It’s your perception of the thing that makes you feel annoyed.

To use psychology speak, it’s not “stimulus → response,” but “stimulus → perception → response.”

This is a powerful insight because it means you can control your state of mind.

You have the option, at any moment, to dispute unhelpful interpretations and replace them with more helpful ones.

So, whenever you find a negative feeling stirring in your mind, try to find a more beneficial way to frame the situation.

If you can change your perception, your emotional response will follow.

3. Love Your Fate

Don’t wish for things to happen the way you want them to.

Instead, wish for them to happen exactly the way they do.

This attitude is called “amor fati” and means “love of fate.”

To love fate is to perceive everything that happens, including the bad, as necessary parts of life.

This isn’t easy, of course, but it’s very powerful.

Because if you can adopt this attitude, you won’t have to worry about difficulties randomly showing up.

You’ll assume that whatever challenges are ahead have been waiting for you all along.

And instead of hoping they won’t come, you can anticipate them and use them to get stronger.